I'm learning that not everyone can appreciate honesty. I was oblivious to my crazy-talk mouth that recently I realised that it did not end up the way I anticipate it, instead it has caused feelings of others were hurt and to the extent of jeopardising my friendship.
For example, I have this dear friend of mine who is in the relationship with this really sweet girl. She made an attempt to befriend with me and of course I did not mind that. During the short conversant that we had, obviously the issue about my good friend would come out. She would ask me what does he like and that sort of things. I didn't realise that when I talk, I would end up be the cause of their break-up. Now, then I didn't leak any secret to her, but then my "smart mouth" was blabbering on things that I was not supposed to get involved in first place. I started making my own "smart" comments on how she ought to appreciate my friend better and not take the relationship for granted since I know how crazy my friend was when he was with her. It was my fault obviously for saying things that was personal. I was trying to help out my friend but obviously it did not fall through the way I expected. Now she is avoiding me and I did not realise that until my friend told me that she was actually hurt by my comment.
I know sometimes, well almost all the times I would be saying things that I was not supposed or entitled to say it out loud. But sometimes, I cannot help it but being honest with myself first, regardless of people's feeling sometimes. I know it sounds harsh, but then again I'm too tired to be too careful with other's feelings when it does not necessarily bring satisfaction in them. In the end, we will all be getting the truth, but it's either we realise it or not. I decided to make a realisation earlier than later, because I hate the feelings of being cheated. By others or by me.
For example, I have this dear friend of mine who is in the relationship with this really sweet girl. She made an attempt to befriend with me and of course I did not mind that. During the short conversant that we had, obviously the issue about my good friend would come out. She would ask me what does he like and that sort of things. I didn't realise that when I talk, I would end up be the cause of their break-up. Now, then I didn't leak any secret to her, but then my "smart mouth" was blabbering on things that I was not supposed to get involved in first place. I started making my own "smart" comments on how she ought to appreciate my friend better and not take the relationship for granted since I know how crazy my friend was when he was with her. It was my fault obviously for saying things that was personal. I was trying to help out my friend but obviously it did not fall through the way I expected. Now she is avoiding me and I did not realise that until my friend told me that she was actually hurt by my comment.
I know sometimes, well almost all the times I would be saying things that I was not supposed or entitled to say it out loud. But sometimes, I cannot help it but being honest with myself first, regardless of people's feeling sometimes. I know it sounds harsh, but then again I'm too tired to be too careful with other's feelings when it does not necessarily bring satisfaction in them. In the end, we will all be getting the truth, but it's either we realise it or not. I decided to make a realisation earlier than later, because I hate the feelings of being cheated. By others or by me.
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